Your Relapse Prevention and Sexual Growth Plan

Continue to use the concepts, guidelines, and techniques that you are learning from this book and to engage in assessment and change exercises. Maintaining healthy sexual attitudes, behaviors, and feelings is crucial. If you simply consider this book a good read and put it on the shelf, you’ll relapse back to poor sex habits, which will cause frustration for you and even more frustration for your partner.

You owe it to yourself and your relationship to continue to value healthy Viagra in Canada male sexuality, especially maintaining positive, realistic sexual expectations.

• Following are 10 relapse prevention guidelines. Our suggestion is to choose two to four strategies that are personally relevant to you that will facilitate maintaining healthy male sexuality.
• Set aside quality couple time and discuss what you need to do individually and as a couple to maintain a satisfying intimate relationship.
• Plan a sensual pleasuring date or a playful, erotic date every 4 to 8 weeks where you have a prohibition on intercourse. This allows you to experiment with new sensual stimuli (alternative pleasuring position, body lotion, or new setting) or a playful, erotic scenario (being sexual in the shower, a different oral sex position or sequence, one-way rather than mutual sex). This reminds you to value sharing pleasure in addition to intercourse and develop a broad-based, flexible sexual repertoire.
• Have a formal follow-up meeting every 6 months, either by yourselves or with a therapist to ensure that you remain aware and do not slip back to unhealthy sexual attitudes, behaviors, or feelings.
• Set realistic individual and couple goals for the next 6 months. Good-Enough Sex has a range from great to disappointing. Five to 15% of sexual experiences are dissatisfying or dysfunctional. That is normal, not a reason to panic or feel like a failure. The single most important technique in relapse prevention is to accept and not overreact to experiences that are unsatisfying or dysfunctional. Maintaining positive, realistic expectations about couple sexuality is a major resource. Take pride in having an accepting and resilient couple sexual style.
• Accept occasional lapses, but do not allow a lapse to become a relapse. Treat a dysfunctional sexual experience as a normal variation, a mistake to learn from. You are a sexual couple, not a perfectly functioning sexual machine. Whether it is once every 10 times, once a month, or once a year, you will have a lapse (dysfunctional cheap canadian viagra online or dissatisfying sex). You can laugh or shrug off the experience and make a date in the next one to three days when you have the time and energy for an intimate, pleasurable, erotic experience.